Aristotle once remarked-‘A man is a social animal’. It’s natural to be affected by others while taking any decision. A person who is easily affected by others can’t take a firm step grow himself/herself. In life, we should take any decision regarding our life ourselves without being affected by anybody else. Let me tell-why?
An eye opener story- A man & his son were going to a fair with an ass. Some people saw them in the way and laughed at them because they were going on foot even they had an ass. The father & son thought that the people were right.So, they had a ride on the ass.
Just after travelling a short distance, they met with some people who again commented on them as both of them were heavy for the ass and they were cruel to the ass. Both thought that the people were right again. So, the father got down.
Again, after some time, they met with some more people who commented on the son because he was riding on the ass without caring for his father who was old and weak and had to move on foot.
The son realized his fault and he got down. He made his father ride on the ass. After going a little further, they met some more people who commented on the rudeness of the father because his young son was going on foot.
Finally, the father and the son realized that to follow people is not possible. So, they must do whatever they think is right.
What does this story reveal? If we take a decision due to the influence of others, we’ll have to regret. Actually, the circumstances for each person is completely different from others. So, each and every person reacts to any event on the basis of his/her own situation. Hence, what is right for others is completely wrong for us. To succeed everyone needs a different way. One can’t be successful by copying anybody.
We must keep some points in mind while taking any decision:
I.Listen to all- Today the listening capacity of people is very low. Our life has become too fast to listen others. But, we must remember : Leaders or successful persons talk less, listen more.
We must listen to all as it provides us sufficient material to take a proper decision. Sometimes we get such an info through others which is not in our mind. So, please…please…listen to others.
II.Take a decision which is suits you- On the basis of available resources you should take a decision which is suitable to you not for pleasing others. Consider every aspect of the situation to reach at any result. Always remember that you may have to regret if you take a decision due to any pressure.
One of the most valuable things gifted by god to us is ‘time’. Do you agree? We can neither increase a single moment of our life by any means nor we can stop it. Surprisingly, We waste it the most in useless gossips, sleeping more than we need and many other meaningless tasks.
Well, Let me ask you a question: If you offer one year extra life and one trillion dollar to a person about to die, what will he choose?…Of course, he will choose one year extra life because wealth is meaningless for that person. What would he do with money if he is not alive?
We have limited time in our life span. I’ve studied and analyzed many persons who lived for a short time but, they achieved a lot. Sriniwas Ramanujan who was a great Indian mathematician lived only about 33 years from 1887 to 1920. One of the most respectable saint of India Swami Vivekananda left the world in the age of 40.
I have also seen such persons who lived for more than 100 years without having any big achievement. In actual, people who don’t take time seriously and pass it casually are not able to do something great.
I always tell people through my seminars and blog to utilize each and every moment of life to achieve their goals of life. In this post, I am going to share some techniques that will help to utilize your maximum time everyday. Have a look:
I.Plan for the next day– Our maximum time is wasted because we have no plan to use it. Try this tip. Sit for just 15 minutes before going to bed & think about the tasks to be done next day. Note the tasks on a paper or a mobile with their timing as follows:
8am-Meeting with Mr X
You can set a task for every second of your day.
II.Have a daily routine- A majority of people don’t have a routine due to which leads to the wastage of time. Successful people have a daily routine to utilize their time in the most productive way.
However, it’s very difficult to follow a routine on a daily basis. But, gradually we can be habitual of it. One thing is very important in this regard that a daily routine is a subject to be changed time to time.
III. Analysis of the day everyday- It is also essential to analyse your day. Before going to bed think for while that how much time you have wasted today & why? Note down the reason. I’ve found that this is a very effective way to improve ourselves.
IV.Read inspirational books- Inspirational books always motivate or encourage us to do good things. We must develop the habit of reading these books. You can find lots of books on self improvement, time management or success. Swett Marden has written a lot on self improvement. There are several other writers too.
However, such books are also available online. But, I would suggest you to buy books and read them offline. The impact of offline reading is great.